Children’s mental health

Understanding Children’s Mental Health For many children in today’s modern world, the list of demands they find themselves dealing with is endless. From studies at school to managing expectations of their teachers, parents, and friends, to social skills and succeeding with their hobbies, their health, personal development and simply making sense of the world around them.

The emotional wellbeing of children is just as important as their physical health. Good mental health allows children to develop the resilience to cope with whatever life throws at them and grow into well-rounded, healthy adults.

Please contact the FLO Team if you are concerned about the mental health of a pupil.

Counselling at William Harding School.

We have an in-school counsellor who provides fantastic support for pupils. We provide regular sessions for children who require them and ad hoc sessions where needed. Please click below to see further information about the School Counselling Service and the Referral form.

Things that can help keep children mentally well include:

  • being in good physical health, eating a balanced diet and getting regular exercise

  • having time and the freedom to play, indoors and outdoors

  • being part of a family that gets along well most of the time

  • going to a school that looks after the wellbeing of all its pupils

  • taking part in local activities for young people.

Other factors are also important, including:

  • feeling loved, trusted, understood, valued and safe

  • being interested in life and having opportunities to enjoy themselves

  • being hopeful and optimistic

  • being able to learn and having opportunities to succeed

  • accepting who they are and recognising what they are good at

  • having a sense of belonging in their family, school and community

  • feeling they have some control over their own life

  • having the strength to cope when something is wrong (resilience) and the ability to solve problems.

Dealing with change

Mostly things that happen to children don’t lead to mental health problems on their own, but traumatic events can trigger problems for children and young people who are already vulnerable. Changes often act as triggers: moving home or school or the birth of a new brother or sister, for example. Some children who start school feel excited about making new friends and doing new activities, but there may also be some who feel anxious about entering a new environment.

Risk factors

There are certain risk factors that make some children more likely to experience problems than other children, but they don’t necessarily mean difficulties are bound to come up or are even probable.

Some of these factors include:

  • having a long-term physical illness

  • having a parent who has had mental health problems, problems with alcohol or has been in trouble with the law

  • experiencing the death of someone close to them

  • having parents who separate or divorce

  • having been severely bullied or physically or sexually abused

  • living in poverty or being homeless

  • experiencing discrimination, perhaps because of their race, sexuality or religion

  • acting as a carer for a relative, taking on adult responsibilities

  • having long-standing educational difficulties.

What mental health problems commonly occur in children?

These are some of the mental health problems that can affect children:

  • Depression affects more children today than in the last few decades, but it is still more common in adults.

  • Self-harm is a very common problem among young people. Some people find it helps them manage intense emotional pain if they harm themselves, through cutting or burning, for example. They may not wish to take their own life.

  • Generalised anxiety disorder (GAD) can cause children to become extremely worried. Very young children or children starting or moving school may have separation anxiety.

  • Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) can follow physical or sexual abuse, witnessing something extremely frightening of traumatising, being the victim of violence or severe bullying or surviving a disaster.

  • Children who are consistently overactive ('hyperactive'), behave impulsively and have difficulty paying attention may have attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD). Many more boys than girls are affected, but the cause of ADHD aren't fully understood.

  • Eating disorders usually start in the teenage years and are more common in girls than boys. The number of young people who develop an eating disorder is small, but eating disorders such as anorexia nervosa and bulimia nervosa can have serious consequences for their physical health and development.

What help is available?

Parental help

If they have a warm, open relationship with their parents, children will usually feel able to tell them if they are troubled. One of the most important ways parents can help is to listen to them and take their feelings seriously. They may want a hug, they may want you to help them change something or they may want practical help.

Children’s negative feelings usually pass. However, it’s a good idea to get help if your child is distressed for a long time, if their negative feelings are stopping them from getting on with their lives, if their distress is disrupting family life or if they are repeatedly behaving in ways you would not expect at their age.

Professional help

If your child is having problems at school, a teacher, school nurse, school counsellor or educational psychologist may be able to help. Otherwise, go to your GP or speak to a health visitor. These professionals are able to refer a child to further help.

Different professionals often work together in Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS). Most support for troubled children and young people is provided free by the NHS, school or your local council’s social services department.

Talking it through

Assessments and treatments for children with mental health problems put a lot of emphasis on talking and on understanding the problem in order to work out the best way to tackle it. For young children, this may be done through play.

Most of the time, the action that professionals recommend is not complex. and it often involves the rest of the family. Your child may be referred to a specialist who is trained to help them explore their feelings and behaviour. This kind of treatment is called a talking therapy, psychological therapy or counselling.

Medication

Most research into medications for mental health problems has focused on adults, rather than children. Children and young people need to be assessed by a specialist before they are prescribed any drugs. There is a lot of evidence that talking therapies can be effective for children and young people, but drugs may be also help in some cases.

Organisations that can help

  • ChildLine

  • Young Minds

  • Contact a Family

  • Family Lives

  • Bernardo's

  • CALM (Campaign Against Living Miserably)

  • PAPYRUS (Prevention of Young Suicide)

  • Children and Young People's Mental Health Coalition (CYPMHC)

Supporting children with their wellbeing

Non-screen activities you can do at home

Advice for Parents and carers

Wellbeing Support Letter

Show Some Love Letter

Mentor Programme

Family Support

Wellbeing Activities

Building Children’s Self Esteem